What My Health Physical Revealed To Me
I hate to admit that until yesterday, it has been almost 7 years since I had a complete physical. I did have my annual Pap smears and breast exams, but that has been the extent. I consistently make sure all three of my children have their well checks and various other appointments concerning their health. It is easy for a lot of us to come up with excuses as to why we may not go to the doctor ourselves. The biggest reason is we may put everyone else before ourselves and time simply passes quickly.
As I updated the physician on the highlights of my past seven years, I came face to face with the reality and emotions from the major events that have taken place since my last visit.
I am one who doesn’t over dramatize situations and when things have become very stressful or tense, I protect my children and try to calm the environment at the expense of me personally facing my own emotions.
I found myself telling the MD that after 23 years, my husband filed for divorce. Five years ago I found myself taking care of two daughters and a mother by myself, as I do not have siblings nor did I have parents I could go to for help or refuge. I also explained the circumstances that happened in the marriage that were incredibly tense and somewhat violent that led to me being hospitalized with a possible TIA. Incredible stress most definitely affects one physically! I am thankful beyond words that my girls are under my roof every night.
Two years after my divorce, The Lord brought JR into my life and the lives of Alexis and Ava and eventually we married. He has become a consistently calm, loving, and authoritative guide in their lives. One year after that, I had my third daughter (Savannah) and that is where my journey continued to move in a completely different direction. She had a prenatal diagnosis of Down Syndrome and we were pressured to abort based on her diagnosis.
The following year, when Savannah was one, she had open heart surgery. Today, her cardiologist can not even hear a murmur!
Five months later (December 2017), I found out we were expecting again. However, I began to bleed and eventually had my first miscarriage. Within 24 hours of the miscarriage beginning, my mother passed away.
The Female doctor listened and actually said I reminded her of herself. Not necessarily because of all of the events, but that major life changes happen to us all. No matter where we come from, race, sex, economical status, etc. Life is a journey. In spite of it all, I am so grateful and thankful. Why? Because God makes no mistakes. He can take our mess and make it our ministry. He is a God of restoration and second chances.
He has a purpose and plan for each of us, if we are willing to trust and follow Him.
As I reflected on the major events that have occurred, I see how good God is. He reveals Himself in the most unique ways and even reveals so much about ourselves if we are humble enough to see. I wouldn’t be on this incredible journey and path I’m on if things happened differently. Wrongs that are done to us, can and will teach us to be better instead of bitter! If life were perfect, we would never see God do His “thang”! We would never know amazing grace. Without sickness, we wouldn’t know The Healer. Without pain, we would not know peace. Without heartache, we wouldn’t know happiness.
So, today and everyday, I choose to accept the path God has for me with a grateful and thankful heart. He wants the best for us! Hopefully, I will continue to learn more about this crazy ride called “life” and be able to share my journey to encourage and relate to others with love.
I look forward to the next 7 years with hope and excitement, making sure I include those yearly physicals!
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